As a first time parent-to-be there is so much I do not know. The task of raising a child seems daunting and there are so many different styles and approaches to doing it “correctly.”
Somehow I managed to live my whole life without ever babysitting and I’m not around children a lot, so being a full-time mom is going to be a huge change for me. For the first few months at least my only goal is to survive and make sure my newborn survives as well.
There are so many words out there to describe parenting techniques: Crunchy, Granola, Attachment, Respectful, Permissive, Authoritarian, etc. I really don’t know what category I will fall into. What I do know is that there is a set of values that my husband and I want to instill in our little one.
We want to raise independent, free-thinking children. I don’t want to push my will on them. I’d rather they make their own decisions.
We won’t tolerate them judging others. Differences are something to be celebrated and investigated, not mocked. My upbringing was really sheltered, but thankfully I had enough extra-curricular activities to meet people of all different backgrounds and get to know them. Diversity is one of the many blessings of life.
We want them to be good with money.
We want them to know that hard work is a good thing. We want them to enjoy it and be proud of themselves.
It’s really important to us to lead by example.
We want an open line of communication between us and our children. Even with difficult subjects we want them to know that they can come to us and we will listen.
How we get to the end goal could vary widely and I’m excited to see where this exciting new path takes us. How would you describe your style of parenting? If you have any advice for me, we’d love it if you dropped us a line at Ask a Bestie!