Getting pregnant for the first time is a life changing event. It’s a wonderful time full of tons of unknowns and most often dads stand by the sidelines helplessly. However, that does not have to be the case. There are so many ways to include your husband in your pregnancy.
These are some of the things I’m doing to make sure that CJ and I are in sync and he feels included with all of the changes coming to our family.
First and foremost, I share how I’m feeling. Sometimes I get super tired out of nowhere or all of the sudden I’m starving and it’s important to let my husband know so he can be aware of it. We make an effort to go to all of my prenatal appointments together. If it’s just blood work or something, I’ll go by myself, but anytime we’re sitting down discussing how things are going or if there’s a chance we’ll get to hear our baby’s heartbeat, my husband always does his best to accompany me. It’s so special to be able to share the once in a lifetime moments of seeing your baby on an ultrasound machine together, and it’s always a relief to both of us when our midwife declares that everything looks great. It is also really nice to have CJ there when we were going over my medical history. He’s able to help me with dates of when things happened and always reminds me of my more subtle symptoms when I gloss over them. It makes me feel super safe to know that my midwives have all of the medical information they need to do their best job to deliver our baby and keep us safe.
Another way I include him is by letting him know when our little one is moving so he can feel him. In the beginning I’d get so sad when he couldn’t feel him when I could feel him clear as day. But it didn’t take long for CJ to be able to feel him too. And when he did he was amazed that our little guy was “alive” in there. Sometimes we’ll watch TV with CJ’s hand on my belly and every time our little one moves we give each other that knowing look, or CJ will nod to let me know he felt it too. Now that our baby is growing he can even feel him kick his back when when we’re snuggled up in bed together.
I spend so much time researching and reading. My husband works super hard and doesn’t have the time that I do to make decisions, so when I finish a book or narrow down a decision, I like to run it by him. A lot of times he’ll do a little research or have an opinion and then we can decide things together. When things affect him too (like my decision to attempt cloth diapering!) it especially important he has a say in how we do things and knows why I’m leaning one way or another.
These are just some of the ways I include my husband in my pregnancy. What are ways you kept your baby daddy involved during the long nine month wait? Is there an awesome way to include CJ that we’re missing out on? If I am, or if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to Ask a Bestie!