how to stay confident in your parenting choices

The moment you see that positive pregnancy test you are responsible for a whole new life. This responsibility comes with making lots and lots of choices. You’ll have to decide what kind of pregnancy care you want, where you want to give birth, choose a pediatrician, where your baby will sleep, breastmilk or formula, how you will swaddle, who gives baths, and on and on and on. As a new parent these choices are opening a whole new and unknown world of baby to you and it can be hard to stay confident in your choices, especially when other around you seem more knowledgeable and maybe even pushy.

How can you feel confident in all of these unending decisions when you don’t know what you’re doing? Here are a few things that have helped me.

Trust God

If you place all of the hope for the health, safety, and education of your child in your own shoulders, you will be overburdened and ultimately disappointed. Christ calls us to trust in him, and reminds us that we are in his care. Our children are included in this as well! Trust that God’s will will be done no matter what choices you make.


While trusting in God’s sovereignty, we should still make thoughtful and informed choices. Researching is now easier than ever, and you can find information on just about everything by looking online and utilizing your local library. If you feel unknowledgeable about a topic regarding your baby, educate yourself so you can make an informed decision.

Know What’s Important

After you’ve researched, you might still feel like you don’t know enough about something to make a good decision. Especially in the early days, every decision seems like a matter of life or death for that sweet little baby. It’s ok to figure out which decisions are more important and spend more time trying to make wise choices there, while spending less time on other minor details.

You Are the Parent!

It’s so easy to feel like an inexperienced nincompoop when it comes to caring for your child but remember that God gave you to that child to care for them! As their parent you are the best equipped to care for them and decide what’s best for them and for your family.

You Can Change Your Mind

Consistency is so important for babies and children but that doesn’t mean you have to stick with your first decision no matter what. It’s ok to change your mind! Sometimes you will learn something later that will make you want to change things up, or your baby will change, or you will move, or you will have another baby. Life happens and it’s ok for your choices to change along with your life.

How do you stay confident in choices you make as a parent? Do you find it easy or difficult to make decision? Let us know in the comments and remember if you have a question you can always Ask a Bestie!