when your best friend becomes a mom

When I became a mom, I was the first of my friends. I had done my research and I had some other mom friends, but no one that I was really close to had entered into motherhood before.


Despite my walking into a world completely unknown, Sarah was such an amazing support and help to me. In the first week of Gideon's life, she made the 3 hour drive to my apartment multiple times to do whatever I needed, whether that was running across town to frantically buy me the Boppy pillow I insisted I didn’t need until I realized I did, or just talking and keeping me company, helping me still feel like my same self even though everything had changed.


When Sarah found out she was pregnant, I was so excited to teach her everything I had learned and help her transition into motherhood. Gideon was a couple months old at the time, so I was in no way an expert, but I was still a couple steps ahead of her and could show her the mistakes I made to help keep her from doing the same.


We had very different pregnancies, both in symptoms and in length. After almost 42 weeks of carrying him, Sarah welcomed her beautiful baby boy into the world! I knew in that instant everything would change for her. I thought that I would want a few uninterrupted hours with my baby before introducing him to my family, but about 30 minutes after his birth I had them come into the delivery room to meet my son!


Sarah had a similar change of heart, and I made that same long drive and met her little baby 12 hours after he was born. The instant love I felt for her precious baby is so close to what I felt for my own, I was shocked! I knew I would love him, but I had no clue it would be to that level, even though Sarah and I grew up together to the point that we consider each other sisters.


At the same time, knowing what she had been through, I felt so protective of Sarah. I spent the day making sure she was eating and sleeping. I helped her learn to nurse her baby, and helped her and her husband diaper and swaddle him. I tried to make sure she got what she needed, but didn’t feel babied herself and that she could still feel as much like the same Sarah she was 12 hours before.


I am so thankful for the things I have learned in my first year as a mother, and I am even more thankful that I was able to use that knowledge to be there for my best friend as she went through it all. We both have so much to learn, but we are so blessed to be able to learn and grow together in motherhood. With Christ and each other to lean on, we will be unstoppable.